Mga Bulaklak ng Panahon: Exploring the Lived Experiences of Old-maiden and their Chosen Path to Singleness
DOI:
https://doi.org/10.65339/ijsair.V2.I2.325Keywords:
Autonomy, Emotional resilience, Interpretative phenomenological analysis, PERMA theory, Singlehood, Social expectations, Well-beingAbstract
This study explores the lived experiences of Generation X old maidens in Laguna, Philippines, focusing on how they construct meaning, identity, and well-being through their chosen path of singlehood. Grounded in Martin Seligman’s PERMA Theory of Well-Being, the research employed a qualitative hermeneutic phenomenological design using Interpretative Phenomenological Analysis. Data were collected through semi-structured interviews with four purposively selected participants who met the criteria of being unmarried, childless, and belonging to Generation X. The findings revealed seven central themes: autonomy and emotional satisfaction, choosing singleness with purpose, navigating social expectations, emotional resilience, coping through social bonds and meaningful activities, intersection of relationships and achievements, and redefining success beyond marriage. Participants demonstrated that singlehood is a conscious and fulfilling life choice characterized by independence, strong family ties, faith, and personal growth. Despite experiencing societal pressures and emotional challenges, they exhibited resilience through adaptive coping strategies such as humor, spirituality, and supportive relationships. The study also found that success and fulfillment are redefined through caregiving, personal development, and self-defined goals rather than marital status. Overall, the research concludes that singlehood is not a deficiency but a meaningful and empowered life path. It recommends promoting inclusive support systems, strengthening family understanding, and encouraging further research on singlehood. The study aligns with SDG 5 (Gender Equality) and SDG 3 (Good Health and Well-Being) by highlighting the importance of autonomy, mental health, and inclusive societal perspectives. It contributes to socio-cultural and psychological sustainability by promoting acceptance of diverse life choices and enhancing understanding of well-being beyond traditional norms.
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